I think both of them are the same, i mean isn't it more romantic when someone understands you? romantic gestures like making a candlelight dinner, or making her a collage of photos that compiles every momment that you had together comes from the sense of understanding that someone in your life needs your undivided attention..romance is a gesture ... Read Morethat comes from understanding needs. i know, i know, it sounds reaaallly masculine-ish or logic-based analysis, but it does make sense, you want to make someone happy understand them first in return they'll understand yourself and they'll give you the sense of love...though the respon is